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Lisa Nikole | Battlefields | Mothers

Thursday, September 29th, 2011

If you follow me on Facebook you will know that my mother has been diagnosed with Altzhiemers.

I’ve respectfully termed this horrid disease the walking dead.

I live in Saint Louis and my mother and step dad are in Ohio. So the first time I visited my mom it was knowing I had already lost her. She sat most of the time in a zombie state, sometimes she’d mention something that did not make much sense, then tilt her head and drift off to someplace in her mind.

I videotaped my visits with my mom, in hopes of having something, anything to share with my children or grandchildren about their grandmother. Not coming from a close family, my children never knew what it was like growing up with grandparents at their side or that fun place to go on the weekends. I wanted them to remember her.. before we lost her.

Seems we were too late…

My second visit about a month later showed a shocking surprise. Her doctors had put her on a patch called Exelon. It’s a pretty new process and well, for whatever reason seems to have worked wonders in my mom’s case. She was more alert, she knew she was in a nursing home and not a hotel, she knew our names, not just our faces.. we had that chance to visit with her some more before she faded away.

The patch offers a false hope.. it gives us time now, but always in the knowledge of knowing.. one day (we are not sure when) at some time (we are not sure exactly how long) she will start to fade away. Part of me does not like the patch.. it somewhat seems like torment knowing that at any moment, she’ll digress … So we wait, and we watch…

I got my step dad on FB and it’s been such a great thing for him, he writes me almost daily with updates and what is going on. Facebook has been a way for him to release some of his caregiving stresses and vent a bit on daily life. He sees her daily and he sees her slipping away, every so subtly.

I remember when he finally realized he was one day going to lose her and he wrote “I don’t think she’s going to be coming home” “One day, she won’t even know who I am” “We were just at the point to enjoy life, now this” :-(

We try to handle things with humor, it may seem cruel, but honestly.. how do you handle watching someone slowly fade away in front of you? How do you look at the person you once knew and talked with and see nothing in their eyes. You’ll either curl up in a ball and cry or you’ll find a way to handle it. We handle it with humor and sharing how we feel, through facebook and those times we go out when I’m in town.

I’m very sure you’ll hear more about my mom and her journey with this disease. I have my own opinions on why it struck her, but those.. for now will stay with me. But for now.. I wanted to introduce you to my mom…

She’s the one who raised me and in that, I owe her honor.

My mom!

Take a breath | Slowing it down | Lisa Nikole Premier Wedding Photographer Saint Louis

Tuesday, February 15th, 2011

Dream of a time gone by…

A friend of mine sent this slideshow through an email to me, It’s pretty fascinating to see all the old pictures, cars, clothing, hair styles and of course the city I lived in for a few years.. Warren Ohio!

Now I was not raised in Warren, Ohio but I did spend a few years living in the city after I was married and before moving to Missouri. I knew what it looked like then and I always said I would have loved to live in one of the buildings downtown and it would have been way cool to go through some of the vacant buildings.

Oh and, I’m not a history buff at all…

I wanted to share the video with you and then I’d like to share my thoughts with you on it, and I’d love to hear your comments on it also!

So, what did you think? I think I saw that simpler times were happier times. Slower paced was nice, peaceful and less cluttered… When did we get to having bigger, better, badder and more more MORE!

Everyone knows I’m a multi-tasker and I do think I’m pretty good at it. But wow, when I looked at those pictures I actually saw such a peace in such a less full life!

I’ve heard that in the past few years millionaires are chucking it all… getting rid of the million dollar homes, the leather fast super smooth sports cars and opting for a much simpler life. It’s called minimalism and here is a small fact sheet about it:

http://mnmlist.com/minimalist-faqs/

I find it pretty interesting that after years and years of earning and getting and having and wanting and acquiring now.. many are saying… i just want peace, I want quiet, i want…. rest!

I thought about this in weddings and how so many couples go into major debt to get married and I wondered why? Some of the most beautiful weddings I’ve photographed were simple in detail yet surrounded with some amazing loved ones!

Is bigger better?
Is more better?

When I moved to Missouri one thing that I noticed when I visited people here was a simpler life then I was used to in Ohio. They had beautiful homes and they had nice things but their walls and every corner was not cluttered with detail. It was simpler, peaceful, non competitive.

So.. what is your take on a simpler life?

I want to hear from YOU! YES YOU!

Moving On | Lisa Nikole | A Year Ago

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

Wow, does time fly…

It’s been a little over a year since I moved to Missouri.

I came here crying so much that when my husband and I went to have utilities turned on or open up accounts I could not stop crying and I knew they thought he abducted me or something, no jokes, it was pretty bad!

I determined never to make a friend and felt I was losing every friend I ever had. I left my daughter and her family in Ohio and that,was something that devastated me for a while. But I had to go on and thank God for the internet and webcams… we made it through and in that separation both of us learned more lessons.

A dear friend asked me about my story, moving my business and making a success in just one year. She prompted this blog!

So the story is like this..I lived in Ohio most of my life, my husband got a transfer to Missouri and we decided as a family, this is the road we wanted to travel. My daughter still lived in Ohio so I knew my Ohio based business would be fine.

Starting over was not the adventure I wanted in life, but as I look back now, I am so glad for the move and the new friendships and the amazing people I have been exposed to.

Sometimes living in a small town you forget there is a great big world out here and there is so much to learn, if you just open the door and step outside, sure a move of this size is NOT for everyone, and I thought for sure I was that everyone, but turns out… I had a lot to learn, even in my own attitudes that I thought were so finite, I was exposed to things that made me take a second look at the condition of my heart!

The first thing we did was find a church, we knew that was the most important thing to our survival and it did not take long before a door was opened up and I now attend the most amazing church, filled with the most awesome people in the world! Here’s the link if you want to check them out: COTR

I started to get my paperwork together, it’s important that when you are starting up, or moving on, to make sure you do it right, don’t play around with things that will come back to get you later, so I found out exactly what I needed to do, local, city and state and started all over again.

Starting over gave us the chance to change our name from what it was Creations Photography (talk about a dated name) to Lisa Nikole. We never did like the name Creations but it’s where we started, we’re just happy where we ended!

Social Networking made all the difference in the world. IF, you are a business person and you shun social networking, you’re going to be lost shortly in a world that no longer exist. Some fear the internet, but I say bring it on. As much bad as you can say about it, I can say good with proof!

I started to connect with Saint Louis photographers and even hosted a first photographer get together, which by the way, we will be doing again, this year!

I attended one bridal show and spoke with many other people about business and visited local bridal shops, florists and the Chamber of Commerce.

The doors were opened up and jobs just started to come, at first it was pretty even with Ohio, but this year I can say Missouri has broken wide open for us and I’m loving meeting all the amazing couples that have contacted us to be their wedding photographer.

That’s the short story *smiles*… and here’s the dramatic ending….

As I write this blog, my daughter and her family are traveling across Ohio, Indiana and Illinois to make their home in Missouri.

Don’t worry Ohio, we’ve not forgotten you, we’ve never been one state photographers we shoot all over this amazing world. But for us to be together again means only one thing…

Look out Missouri!!!! :-)