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Moving On | Lisa Nikole | A Year Ago

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

Wow, does time fly…

It’s been a little over a year since I moved to Missouri.

I came here crying so much that when my husband and I went to have utilities turned on or open up accounts I could not stop crying and I knew they thought he abducted me or something, no jokes, it was pretty bad!

I determined never to make a friend and felt I was losing every friend I ever had. I left my daughter and her family in Ohio and that,was something that devastated me for a while. But I had to go on and thank God for the internet and webcams… we made it through and in that separation both of us learned more lessons.

A dear friend asked me about my story, moving my business and making a success in just one year. She prompted this blog!

So the story is like this..I lived in Ohio most of my life, my husband got a transfer to Missouri and we decided as a family, this is the road we wanted to travel. My daughter still lived in Ohio so I knew my Ohio based business would be fine.

Starting over was not the adventure I wanted in life, but as I look back now, I am so glad for the move and the new friendships and the amazing people I have been exposed to.

Sometimes living in a small town you forget there is a great big world out here and there is so much to learn, if you just open the door and step outside, sure a move of this size is NOT for everyone, and I thought for sure I was that everyone, but turns out… I had a lot to learn, even in my own attitudes that I thought were so finite, I was exposed to things that made me take a second look at the condition of my heart!

The first thing we did was find a church, we knew that was the most important thing to our survival and it did not take long before a door was opened up and I now attend the most amazing church, filled with the most awesome people in the world! Here’s the link if you want to check them out: COTR

I started to get my paperwork together, it’s important that when you are starting up, or moving on, to make sure you do it right, don’t play around with things that will come back to get you later, so I found out exactly what I needed to do, local, city and state and started all over again.

Starting over gave us the chance to change our name from what it was Creations Photography (talk about a dated name) to Lisa Nikole. We never did like the name Creations but it’s where we started, we’re just happy where we ended!

Social Networking made all the difference in the world. IF, you are a business person and you shun social networking, you’re going to be lost shortly in a world that no longer exist. Some fear the internet, but I say bring it on. As much bad as you can say about it, I can say good with proof!

I started to connect with Saint Louis photographers and even hosted a first photographer get together, which by the way, we will be doing again, this year!

I attended one bridal show and spoke with many other people about business and visited local bridal shops, florists and the Chamber of Commerce.

The doors were opened up and jobs just started to come, at first it was pretty even with Ohio, but this year I can say Missouri has broken wide open for us and I’m loving meeting all the amazing couples that have contacted us to be their wedding photographer.

That’s the short story *smiles*… and here’s the dramatic ending….

As I write this blog, my daughter and her family are traveling across Ohio, Indiana and Illinois to make their home in Missouri.

Don’t worry Ohio, we’ve not forgotten you, we’ve never been one state photographers we shoot all over this amazing world. But for us to be together again means only one thing…

Look out Missouri!!!! :-)

Baby Ren and Family | Troy Missouri

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

I got a call last week to do a baby/family shoot.  I was thrilled to be asked to shoot another baby and when I arrived and met the entire family I knew it would be an awesome shoot.

Some say children are hard to shoot, but I think that is when you try to fold them into your  mold, children need to be children and they have to trust you.  You have to earn that trust first, but listening to them and then talking to them, not at them.

I was met at the door by a new mom, and her older children.  It was nice to see them and of course the questions and comments started.  The middle son kept asking if I was going to give him lots of shots, we later found out, he meant photographs as his mother and I kept wondering why he thought I was going to give him a shot!  Sometimes it’s the adults that think too much :-)

Baby Ren was amazing at 4 weeks old.  His little body compared to that of the rest of his family and yet he had no problem fitting into the shots we had for him.

It was really a fun shoot and the family was awesome.

Thank you for allowing me into your home to shoot and creating some awesome memories for you to treasure!

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Thankfulness

Thursday, November 26th, 2009

I spent the day yesterday, being very purposeful in being thankful.

Everyone has the usual I am thankful fors: mom, dad, brother, sister, husband, wife, God, church, family, friends and so on.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m very thankful for all these things in my life, but as I went through my day yesterday I kept in the front of my mind…being thankful.

I went to Wal-mart to pick up a few last minute items, and I was thankful that I had the freedom to run into a store and grab a few items and leave.

I was thankful for vision that keeps me doing what I do. I’m thankful for family because there are so many lonely hurting people out there, even people in a crowded room of family can be lonely.

I had a shoot in Old Saint Charles of a wonderful family and I was so thankful to be able to capture their family together and enjoy just a short moment of their love for each other.

I met my husband for lunch and was so thankful we had the abilities to go out to lunch and make time for each other.

Now, this is where it gets tricky….because my husband made a couple errors on directions and I got lost and well… I can still be thankful I have a husband and that I made it home! :-) There’s a big dark grey area here, but we’ll leave it there :-)

I made it home and iced brownies to share with a few friends. I’m so thankful I have friends to share with and laugh.

I went to church, I serve as an usher and I’m so thankful for everyone on our team and everyone that has enriched my life in the last year at COTR. There are just way too many to name, but you all know who you are!

We had our family picture taken for our Christmas Card. I’m thankful that even though “the shoemakers family has no shoes” I at the last minute could ask a friend to take our picture so I can get the cards done and sent out to you.

We came home and baked a few more cookies and I made the pumpkin pie. How can you not be thankful for the abundance in our lives.

I went to bed…and I’m thankful I woke up this morning to tell you about my day!

So often we go through our days and nights consumed in a me, myself and I attitude. Us four no more mentality and I am so grateful and thankful that I am continually reminded on a regular bases that there are people out there that do not have warmth, love, someone to hug, trust, food, care, health, peace, sound mind, a job, vision, beauty, sunshine, freedom, safety, an iphone, the internet, a phone period, music, a pillow to lay their head down upon, a sound sleep, joy, money, enough money, passion, trust, happiness, smiles, friends, family and the list can just go on, and please feel free to add to it if you like.

I’m thankful that on a regular basis I am reminded that there are amazing and wonderful people out there that do good for others, serve in other nations so I can have freedom in mine, help a school in need, help an unemployed person find a job, send money to a mission, help a lonely person feel loved, give a blanket and food to the homeless, give time and money to complete a project for someone else to have shelter, family, warmth, provisions, love and peace.

Sometimes all you need to do is just smile! I’m thankful I can hold my head up and look at people when I am out and just smile at them and wish them a wonderful day.

Sometimes all you have to do is give of yourself, get up and get out and find someone in need, find an organization that helps others and reach out and you’ll find you have SO MUCH to be thankful for, even if you are not the richest, prettiest, most wonderful person on the earth. But, when you reach out, you become a most amazing person to someone in need.

I’m thankful my heart is not hardened by what I’ve seen in the past and what happens around me on a regular basis (just reading the news can hardened your heart and soul).

I’m thankful for all of you. For Photographers who push me to the next level and help me get through the level I am at. For Musicians who create the most amazing sounds that is filled with such passion and soul, with out it my slideshows would be worthless. For the people that smile back and me, and those that don’t. I just have to keep trying. For the brides and grooms I’ve gotten to spend time with, thank you for allowing us into your life and trusting us with such an important part. For our future couples, just wait, it’s going to be amazing.

So, today I’m thankful, but what’s better then that is I’m always reminded to be thankful of what I have. A phone call can change your life in an instant. Just the snap of a finger and things can change. Be thankful…everyday…. and do me a favor…Smile! :-)

Happy Thanksgiving everyone

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Unsinkable Ships Sink…Unbreakable Walls Break

Monday, November 16th, 2009

I thought when the decision was made to move to Saint Louis, I would die! To me, it was the final end to a deep secret battle I was waging with myself on the inside!

With this move, I lost every friend I thought I had for the last 25 years.
So many things were said to me I started to list them, but that is not what I’m writing about.

The day I left, I walked out of the room alone, no one said goodbye. No one noticed it was my last day. My daughter and grandson walked with me to my car, I looked back and smiled. No one really knew how bad I was hurting. I put up a good front! It took a few months to get to a point of understanding!

You can’t blame people for expressing how they feel, what they think.

But it can rock your world and we really need to THINK before we speak!

but we also need to speak before we lose the chance to ever speak again!

Six years ago an event happened in my life that literally took my breath away I did what I did the best! I used my camera to shield me from emotion and dealing with the loss of someone so very special to me!

This post is very different from most that I write but it’s a tribute to a very special person that I’ve never been able to express the depth of his loss in my life!

I was honored and privileged to capture the last year of his life. His last walk to public speaking and his last celebration of his wife’s birthday! It was an honor!

Was he perfect? Far from it! Was he gifted, very! He gave me the most unconventional advice THAT WORKED!

His death destroyed a community, tore people apart and sent many people on a far off journey!

I’ve never seen nor experienced the things I did that first year after he died.

One night I woke up to write these words:
I’m not so convinced he screwed up as was said but, his death released a cord that he held onto that held everything and everyone close to him tightly together. When that cord was loosed all hell was unraveled.

I remember long LONG walks talking, examine every angle, every passage, every way. The what ifs. But in the end, none of that mattered. No matter what we prayed, how we tried, his death spurred a ripping and a tearing that may never be repairable. THAT is up to people and generally people are far better at fueling a fire then quenching it!

So, I live in Saint Louis now! Is life perfect? No! But, a whole new world has opened up to me.

My husband found a church and it’s an amazing place of healing and learning! It’s a place of growing and I’m surrounded by people more amazing then I’ve ever known. I said I’d never make new friends, but I have. :-)

I’ve since returned home and had a chance to talk to someone and even when I spoke the word I thought was…. FREEDOM! You know, I’m not a part of the battle anymore and I hope both sides do excellent with what they have and from deep inside I felt chains fall off my chest.

See, I needed to move! I needed to break free. For “ME” It was not about abandoning, it was not about running, it was about finding something I’d lost!

Nov. 13th, 2003 Numbness evoked my being.

Staying where I was, this day would have never come. A day to look back and be thankful and a day to be able to express my love and gratitude.

I just told a friend! Things are going to be different now: Passion/Emotion/Depth/Feeling/Expression!

There’s a depth to my soul that died that day. I used to see so much in small things and that went away. I used to look at things in a manner so deep, so revealing and I needed to get me back!

I needed to be removed from my friends of 25 years. I needed to be separeted from my daughter and best friend. I needed to be put in a place where no one knew me and in a sense lost, except to my own self
and I needed to find myself again.

In the past year, i’ve made a ton of mistakes. In everything there is a spiritual and a natural course and it’s a choice to know which way you should go. You don’t need to pray about it, you just need to know what to do. You need to know who you are, and there is nothing wrong with natural choices. It depends on where you are, who you are. God will meet you, where ever you go, if you look for him.

We need to be so aware of what is going on around us and not separating ourselves to the point of missing someone that really needs our attention.

Casting someone off because they don’t conform to what we believe, dress the way we dress or act the way we feel they should act.

We need to take a good look around us and stop being the center of attention and see who needs our attention!

This video is a great example!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qb2C6YHY2Po

This is the same video that floored me..and brought me back to where I need to be!

The title to this post is from another video by Joe Nichols (you can look it up) The Impossible.

The man I lost in 2003 took me on 3 tours to Israel. I remember joking… “this plane will never go down, he’s on it” Imagine my feelings on the day he died! I’ve not been back to Israel, but it’s about time to take that tour again!

So for me, Somethng I was never able to do!

Thank you Rev. Stanley W. Scott for everything you did for me! I appreciate you and miss you! I can’t tell you how often I’ve said “I wish you were here” You did a great job in raising up the people who are now raising people up!

In all your weaknesses and short comings YOU were an incredible man and in the end, my friend you were more of a hero then anyone I know!

I miss our “real” talks and getting to know you in a way others never did!

Thank you!
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A question asked that had me thinking all week!

Friday, July 17th, 2009

I opened the door and peeked in, and there it was, a question that really sent me deep into thought and reflection! I went back a few years, then a few more. I thought about every picture I took. I thought about the people, places and things. I thought about my life and how privilaged and blessed I am to travel, do the things I get to do and meet the people I get to meet! I live an abundant life!

I was humbled as I looked back on my life, because parts of my life are not particularly happy ones, but as I looked back, I’m not even sure how I can compare the bad seconds to the hours upon hours of amazing things I’ve been allowed to experience.

So, what question set my soul on fire?

It comes from Jason and he asked me:
“In all your years of shooting…what photo are you most proud …of and why?

Jason, you really got me thinking and to be honest, your question really helped me put into perspective a lot in my life. so, Thank You!

So, what picture am I most proud of? Like a lot in my life I don’t have just a simple answer, If I had to pick one, well, I’d probably have to list more!

As I looked back, I started to think of certain pictures and I realized that those pictures that I thought of first were more because of the amazing people I was honored to meet and photograph! What made the picture an honor was the people, not so much my talent or ability, but the “life story” and people behind the picture.

I thought of all my brides and grooms and they all know they are special to me but, i wanted to dig deeper and this is what I found!

Erika: A beautiful woman who cried at her trash the dress session because her dress had already been worn and her marriage had ended, what was difficult turned into laughter and joy. I’ll be shooting Erika’s wedding in a couple of weeks! It’s been a joy to know her and watch her grow through these years!
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Sam: I met Sam at my hotel in Westchester, NY. We just started to talk and when Sam wanted to tell me “his story” I felt such a strong connection to him and the wife he loved so much and lost a few years ago to cervical cancer. Sam caused me to blog and encourage women everywhere to pay the costs and get checked, had his wife done so, it would have been her hand he was holding that day, not mine!
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Bert Randolph Sugar: On a train ride home from NYC to my hotel I sat across from a man with amazing stories. I thought no one could have done these things, met these people. For over an hour we talked and shared and laughed. He promised me at the end of the ride he would tell me who he was. Do you believe I had to google it? Stay in touch Bert! I miss our chats!
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Eretz Yisrael: Israel, while I have many many pictures of Israel this one stood out, I just snapped it, I thought about this young man serving his country and who he may have been talking to. The smile on his face, the weapon in his hand. Ths photo also haunts me, because I tried to find him, I wanted a release to be able to use this picture. To this day, he remains a mystery!
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Rev. Stanley W. Scott: I was asked to follow the end of Rev. Scotts life. This was particularly difficult because, he was a constant help in my life for 23 years. He baptized me, married me and prayed over my life and my families. He was a constant strong point in my life. I was honored to cover his life and his death. I chose this picture of him, because it’s how I remember him most! I hope to share more images of him with you in a month or so.
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Ami Jerimiah Cohen: I covered the birth of Ami and when his birth became an urgent factor, I did the only thing I knew to do, I grabbed my camera and I stayed composed, and in a matter of seconds I heard his cries from the operating room! Ami is my grandson! He’s beyond amazing and special. A part of my heart beats in his!
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I’ve lived a wonderful life and it’s far from over! It’s been amazing and i can only look forward to the next person I meet and get to here “your life story” I’ve been privilaged to travel to different nations and states, to cover life from the beginning to the end!

Thank you everyone for allowing me the opportunity to share your Life Story, photographing you and allowing me to be special enough to be entrusted with it. Thank you! I am deeply humbled by this chance to look back!
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To everything….dream dream dream….

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009

I’ve had a chance to hear this fast talking amazing financial lecturer Joe McGee. I’m hooked on his style and wisdom. Sign up for his newsletters you won’t regret it!

Recently he listed a few “keywords” to help us fulfull our dreams. I’m all about fufilling my dreams. I live an amazing life. I’ve got an amazing family, I get to travel and I also get to join in with one of the biggest celebrations in people’s lives. I’m blessed!

So, to fulfill YOUR dreams, you’ve got to start by identifying your goals! What do you value most in life? For me, it’s family, that is why I won’t shoot more then 25 weddings a year. I want to enjoy my family on those other weekends!

Pick your top five most important things that you value most and post them here. I’d love to hear from you and see your goals and dreams!

Here is the list to get you started:
Achievement Adventure Boldness Career
Children Community Diligence Discipline
Education Effectiveness Enjoyment Excellence
Faith Family Finances Growth
Happiness Hard Work Health Honor
Independence Intelligence Leadership Legacy
Love Marriage Merit Obedience
Philanthropy Professionalism Security Self-Control
Success Time Travel Vision

I’m also all about lists….you really really REALLY need to do this…
write where you want to be (your goals) in five, ten, and twenty years from now.

Read Joes post to get more ideas to do this!

In 1979, interviewers surveyed new graduates from Harvard’s MBA Program and found that:

84% had no specific goals at all
13% had goals but they were not committed to paper
3% had clear, written goals and plans to accomplish them
In 1989, the interviewers again interviewed the graduates of that class.
The 13% of the class who had goals were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84% who had no goals at all.
The 3% who had clear written goals were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97% put together.

Time to get those goals written and posted so we can see them and be reminded of them daily!!!

So, post your thoughts, I’d love to hear them

Bridal Show 2.0

Tuesday, March 10th, 2009

On Sunday I had the opportunity to head to St. Peters and participate in the 2009 Bridal Bliss Bridal Expo.

Raquel came in from Ohio and we had a really wonderful time in a new market for us and met a lot of really nice people.

We were located between a Golf Course and a Travel Agent! The smell of the food was amazing and then the people… a non-stop flow of brides, grooms, friends and family! We had some wonderful conversations. We met a family whose brother is getting married, for the first time, he’s 53. We met another woman who between her and her future husband they combined 82 years of marriage, both widowed and going to walk down that aisle one more time, together. And our Texas Groom who wants his engagement pictures outside Busch Stadium in matching Cubs shirts. Yikes!

We met an amazing group of people who shared one thing on that one dayThey were going to marry the love of their lives and they were looking for people to share in that day with them.

I love the Bridal Shows that I am able to talk with the people. I loved listening to your life stories and getting to know you all.

It was great to meet you all. I hope you all enjoyed the show as much as we enjoyed doing it.

To all my new vendor friends, it was nice to meet you, yes even you pole fitness lady! Yes, she was there, with her pole and no I did get on it. But it’s a new big thing in the realm of fitness and fitness parties.

From the smell of the meatballs, that drove Raquel crazy (I ate one and they were GOOD!), to the health and fitness, all around great show.

Thank you St. Peters. See you next year!
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Memories

Sunday, February 22nd, 2009

This week I’ve been so busy I’ve neglected you my blogger friends, but really, I’ve been on a task, it’s a secret of sorts so I can’t really spill the beans just yet….but…

I’ve been scanning images, over 450 to be exact, some old and some new. I’ve gone through every photography I own, that’s a lot, you know those big plastic bins you put your christmas decorations in? Yep, how about 2.5 of those full of pictures!

It’s been fun going through memory lane, my boys even got into it one of the nights and got a lot of laughs out of my earlier years.

This move has caused me to take a harder look at life and family and myself. I’ve been enjoying that part of the journey. In everything there is change and there is thought and there are tears.

I plan on keeping moving forward, that is where true happiness is. Moving Forward!

I love what I do and I’ll keep doing it. Photography is a way of life for me, it’s become a part of me, to steal a famous quote “A picture of someone says they mattered, someone cared enough about them to take a picture”

Certain religious sects believe a picture steals the soul, I believe it preserves it, that moment in time, that “click” of the shutter, that moment in history is preserved for as long as ever can last. Shared for years and sometimes hidden away in a plastic container.

What treasures do you have hidden away, maybe it’s time to look at them.

Here is one of mine!
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Three Hundred and Sixty Five Days!

Thursday, January 1st, 2009

That’s all the time we have, 365 days to make our impact in 2009. We are standing on the very tip and looking 2009 in the face. I’m ready for all 2009 holds! It’s going to be a great year! I can’t wait and I am SO looking forward to what is in store.

Last night Jim and I were driving to our Ohio home from our Missouri home and the roads were somewhat empty and we were very thankful for that, because we had a goal, to be with family for the “ball drop” of 2009, we walked in the door around 11:30 pm.

We watched Dick Clark and Ryan Secrest wish us all a Happy New Year and we all said Happy New Year to each other. I watched a bit of the show and then decided to go to bed!

I laid in bed and just wanted to pray and ask G-d to direct my next 365 days, that the talent as a photographer he has given me would be used to it’s fullest. That my role as a wife and mother would be magnified in my life. I prayed for health and safety of my immediate family. I then asked G-d to walk with me in each and every day of the next 365 days, that no matter what 2009 held I knew I’d not be walking it alone…..and then, I went to sleep!

My Re-Solutions for 2009:
To be an example
To use the talents G-d has given me to the fullest extent
To be a better mother (yes I’ll cook more)
To be the best wife I can be
To use wisdom
Speak less, Listen more
and a few others…..

Happy New Year Everyone…. Can’t wait to see what it’s got for you and me!